Viva Las Vegas!

A week ago the Married Man's Survival Guide went to its coming out party on the strip in Vegas. As we started our abbreviated workshop on understanding the Relationship Equity Account, we asked the room full of men to state their name and number of years of successful marriage in their current relationship. To our delight, there were over a dozen men with a quarter of a century or more of success! To these masters we granted the authority to interrupt us at any point in the session to correct or comment. We were only reporters passing on things that they and others like them had taught us!


At one point in the session, an elder gentleman wanted to make a comment - to correct us on an assertion we had been making. While he was our senior and deserving of our respect, I remembered his introduction and that he hadn't been one of the masters - in fact he had only 3 years of marriage currently under way. So we suggested that he phrase his comment as a question and ask the masters in the room. Not surprisingly, all of them essentially shut him down and said that it would not be a good idea. What he was suggesting is not important, but what is important is that we all are always well advised when we go first to the masters.


If you want to get good at something, find those who do it well and imitate them. Kind of what Napoleon Hill said in Think and Grow Rich.


Post Script: On the plane out I sat next to a couple who had been married for 59 years! (thank you, God!) They were holding hands and touching each other rather unconsciously most of the trip. And so when Mrs. D got up for a bathroom break, I leaned over and asked Karl, "So tell me, what is the secret to your success?" His answers could have come straight from the MMSG text, except for one we hadn't yet collected. With a smile he said, "sleep naked!"


I love it!