You may wonder why we chose to write about the “art of war” in this a blog on relationship success. The simple truth is that men can relate to warring and battles. In addition, we need to recognize that for over 2,500 years Sun Tzu’s The Art of War has stood as one of the most circulated and universally used piece of “relationship” wisdom on the planet. This is the fifth and final entry in a series of postings based on Master Sun’s craft of engaging with others for successful resolution of conflicts.
Fa (managing execution). Fa, pronounced like the first sound in ‘follow-through,” is the final critical component of the art of relationship (or the Art of War). Managing the execution is essential in managing her understanding of who you really are. If you say “sure, I’ll take out the trash,” then by all means do it – now – not later. Be your words! She will know what you really are by what you do not by what you say. We always tell our men, if you want to know what a man really believes look at where his feet are! Don’t tell me that your family is important if you are continually at the office at 7 an 8 every night!
This means knowing what your priorities are and acting accordingly. Fa is all about taking the right action. An old Chinese proverb says, “Many a man’s house has burned to the ground while the owner chased after the arsonist!” Who cares who is to blame. Act and follow through on your actions and commitments. Do everything you do all the way to the end, completing the task. How many half finished projects are cluttering up your house and your relationship? How many promises have you not fulfilled? It may be time to sit down and make a list, committing to knock of one thing each week.
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